Kink Craft blog and podcast

So the fine folks at Kink Craft contacted me not long ago, asking if I’d be willing to write a guest post for their site about the day-to-day life of a ProDomme.  Of course, I was happy to, and the article was published a couple days ago.

The article can be found here, with a fantastic illustration by Amy Gardner.

They also did a podcast about it that was really fun to listen to.

But seriously, check them out.  There are great articles to read and very entertaining and informative podcasts each week, as well as a shop to buy handmade toys, and courses to teach you how to make your own toys.  It’s a really awesome site, I highly recommend taking a look.

That’s pretty damn cool

I made the Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2016!  Yay, me!  And thank you to my boy, Steel, who nominated me.

Top 100 Sex Bloggers 2016

But I have to say I was pretty damn surprised when I found out.

So I’m not a fan of marketing.  Like, at all.  I don’t do the whole internet marketing, promotion thing.  It’s too much work, and I’m just not all that good at it.  Not the same thing, but somewhat related, I also hate sales.  I’ve had two jobs in the past that involved sales, and pitches, closings, and all that crap, and I despised both of them.

That’s actually why I’m not a martial arts instructor anymore.  Because of the 80 hours a week I worked (I’m not kidding, for more than a year, I worked 5am to 9pm on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays {instructors’ workout was 5am to 8am, and that gave us an hour to drive to our dojos and get ready to open at 9}, 14 hours a day on Tuesdays and Thursdays {7am to 9am was my and the other assistant instructor’s private lesson at our dojo with the chief instructor}, and Saturday was 9am to about 3 or 4.  Sometimes we got to leave as early as 1, but that was about as common as having to stay as late as 5 or 6), a good 30 of those were spent on sales and sales-related crap.  Going out to parking lots, trying to get interest for new students.  Sometimes going door-to-door in neighborhoods. Practicing our pitches.  Practicing our closings.  Figuring out our “sales dog style” (I’m a chihuahua, in case you were wondering), and reading all those classic books, like How to Win Friends and Influence People, Rich Dad, Poor Dad, The Secret, and tons more I never bothered myself to remember.  It was obnoxious, and I hated it.  Surprise, surprise, I wasn’t that great at it, either.

I’m rambling.

Of course, I wish I had the patience and ability to do it.  This blog (and likely, my life) would be very, very different if I had the ability to properly market myself.  Alas, while I possess a great many strengths (like, a lot), this is not one of them.

There’s a boy I own, however, who does possess that level of patience and ability.  Steel is very good at doing it.  Of course, that’s not surprising.  He’s a writer.  A big part of how he makes his living is knowing how to market his writing and his name.  He’s occasionally helped me with my own stuff, but I’ve never had the desire or motivation to keep it up on my own.

So I never really worked to get my name, or my blog, out there.  And in some ways, I sort of regret it.  My following grows very slowly compared to those who put the time and effort into letting people know they exist, and attracting readers who are interested in their content, and could potentially learn from those who are more experienced.

And while I will never profess to know everything, or even a fraction of everything, I’ve been doing this for awhile, and I’m pretty good at it.  I would like it if more people who are new or inexperienced could find my blog and learn from my own experiences, just as I learn from the experiences of the bloggers I follow.

I’m also just a tad egotistical (shocking, I know).  I like knowing that people are interested in and entertained by what I write.

I just don’t like it enough to put effort into marketing/promoting/getting myself out there.

So I was surprised when Steel said, “I saw you made Molly’s Top 100.”

… Wait, what?

Molly’s Top 100?  That sounds so familiar.  Why does that sound so familiar?

He showed me the link, and as soon as I saw it, I immediately recognized it.  I’d seen the list before, of course.  I think most bloggers have.  I just never thought I’d be on it.

So that’s pretty cool.  I’m pretty stoked.