Fun, kinky stuff is coming

The last few nights have been insane. I’m only a quarter of the way done with a post about a sexy new toy that I can’t wait to share. But writing like that takes time that, as of yet, I haven’t really had. Relishing those memories and describing the things I did to her isn’t something I want to rush.

If you’re waiting for an email from me, that’s coming too, but also something I don’t want to rush.

So in the meantime,  I decided tonight that I have a “project.”

SIL has a friend, that I’ve known for years, but have never been all that close to. I’ve heard a bit about this friend’s long-time boyfriend, how he’s not hugely social and gets antsy if she stays at our place too late when we have parties, and the couple of times I met him, he was polite enough, but reserved and distant.

As someone who can also be quite reserved and distant, I didn’t think much of it.

Until tonight.

When he started blowing up her phone and I asked what he was saying in his text messages, her replies gave me pause. So I started watching her. Listening to her. Giving her the same focus I give my subs.

And what I saw was a massive sea of red flags.

So many red flags, that to list them all would take thousands upon thousands upon thousands of words.

He’s emotionally abusive. Like, really emotionally abusive. Like, to kind of a shocking degree.

And she doesn’t know how to get out. She even made the comment that she tends to get sucked in, and can’t get out of relationships. Add a passive aggressive, abusive, guilt-tripping little coward of a man, and her having a very submissive, subordinate personality  (something she said repeatedly throughout the night, in a variety of different topics), as well as issues with self image and self confidence, and it’s unlikely she’ll be able to get out without help.

Isn’t it lucky she knows a ridiculously dominant, proud, outspoken, strong-willed super-bitch of a woman who won’t shy away from confrontation and won’t hesitate to punch that pathetic asshole who has the shameless, unmitigated audacity to call himself a man square in the jaw, and send him running with his tail between his legs, like the dirty, disease-infested dog that he is?

So that’s my new goal. If she doesn’t want my help, that’s her choice, but repeatedly throughout the night she acknowledged that she’s not happy and doesn’t know what to do. And I’m more than capable of teaching her to have her voice heard, and to find someone who will respect her, rather than possess her. And she seemed receptive to the idea of me giving her a hand.

Although I do have to acknowledge that part of that may have been because of her tendency to yield to more dominant personalities (along with the fact that she’s a Gemini, and does that chameleon thing pretty well), and to give me what she thinks I want from her. But I’m going to be spending a lot more time with her over the next couple of weeks, and even the Gemini-iest of Geminis can’t hide from me for long.

If she doesn’t want my help, then I’ll butt out. But I really don’t think that’s the case. And no one I currently know has ever seen me when I get into super-bitch mode. It’s not pretty.

That little pig is going to become intimately familiar with it. And he’s going to get his claws out of her, or by God, I might just finally get myself an arrest record. But I’m not going to sit back, see all of her cries for help, and ignore it.

I think that’s why she came to me. She made the comment early in the night, when I was talking to Kazander in the presence of FIL about something, “Don’t you sort of run things?”

To which I said, “Of course I do.”

That was before the issues with her boyfriend came out, but something in the way she said that stood out to me. I let it go, but when you factor in everything else she said, the picture is clear enough that even Kazander, not known for his ability to recognize subtlety, saw it.

She wants out. And she wants help.

She’s not a fighter. I am.

And hell yes, without question, without hesitation, without reservation, and without mercy or remorse, I will fight for her until she tells me to stop.

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2 thoughts on “Fun, kinky stuff is coming

  1. I have had a few friends in similar situations over the years. Beyond being supportive and encouraging them to leave their partners I could do nothing (it seemed). In one case my friend didn’t have the courage to leave until after her partner had threatened their children with a knife. She was terrified and I found someone that I knew who would put her and her kids up for a few days while she figured out what she was doing. Her partner did bang on my door at one point, but I could honestly say I hadn’t seen them. She ended up moving across the country and then later to the States. She also seemed to become much more assertive as a result of the situation.

  2. little one says:

    i hope she accepts your help. If i had had someone like you fighting for me, i would have spared over a decade of heartache. 💜

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