A study in Prague surveyed one thousand average (vanilla) women. Over 25% of them agreed that a more submissive man is more attractive than a dominant one. Wayyy less than 25% thought a dominant man was attractive.
That’s huge. You can’t get 25% of women to agree on anything. The study also found that relationships are more successful if one partner is the more dominant, and one is more submissive, although it doesn’t matter which partner “wears the pants.”
So if submissive men are so widely coveted, and are so common, why are they so stigmatized?
It’s like herpes. 90% of the world has some form of herpes, but one study found that a majority of Americans think it’s worse than HIV.
Which is insane. I don’t care if someone has herpes. Kazander and I are in the 10% that doesn’t have it, but that hasn’t stopped me from playing with people who have it.
Hell, Kazander’s girlfriend gets cold sores. He still plays with her. And thankfully, she’s just as paranoid about him catching it from her as I am, so she’s quick to let him know if she thinks she feels one coming on.
But people don’t realize that 90% of the world has it, so it carries a stigma.
Just like people don’t realize that more than a quarter of women prefer a submissive man over a dominant one. And that significantly less women wanted a more dominant man.
Now, it is important to note that this study wasn’t talking about BDSM or D/s relationships. This was talking about vanilla dominance and submission, and the power dynamics one can expect to find in a more traditional relationship.
But the principle is the same. Relationships with an unequal power dynamic do better than relationships where both partners are “equal.” And quite a few women prefer their man to have a more submissive role in the relationship.
Statistically, submissive men are more attractive to women than dominant men, and are in higher demand.