30 Days of Kink: Day 23

Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed?  How so?


…………………  Seriously?

Okay, first of all, I have to ask.  I just have to ask.

Am I the only one who was always kinky?  Did everyone else discover it when they were older?  Like, how does that work?  How do you discover that you’re submissive, or Dominant?  Seriously, I’m genuinely curious and want to know.  If you didn’t discover you were submissive or Dominant until adulthood, and are fine with extremely personal questions, email me.  I want to pick your brain.

So, for the sake of this question, we’ll start with when I entered the world of kink, at 16.  You’ve already seen from before that earlier than that, I was pretty irresponsible and wildly unethical, and had no fucking clue what I was doing.  And while, yes, fingering a reluctant boy was hot, it was pretty obvious that I had no business having that kind of power over someone else at 15 fucking years old.  I was an idiot.

Hell, even after I met my mentor, I was an idiot.  I was still a teenage girl, after all.  And I loved sex.  Seriously, it shocks me to this day that I got out of high school without getting pregnant or contracting a disease.  I was promiscuous as hell, and I don’t know, I probably would have even tried to fuck my mentor if we’d had that kind of relationship (for the record, because I’ve been asked this six million times, no, I never fucked him.  No, I never touched him sexually.  No, he never touched me sexually.  It wasn’t like that, and don’t fuck with his memory by entertaining that thought.  It’s disgusting).

So we’ve established that I was young, stupid, and ignorant when I entered kink.  Have my interests and perceptions changed since then?

I sure fucking hope so.

3 thoughts on “30 Days of Kink: Day 23

  1. thechastecyclist says:

    As I was sitting here thinking about your question I remember seriously daydreaming about being tied up and abused around the age of 12 or 13. 99% of the time it was by sexually dominant women…there was the odd daydream of being tied up and sexually abused by another guy. I didn’t really act on any of it until college after reading a Penthouse Forum story about a guy who was “lured” in to a girls apartment only to be tied up and used as her sex toy. That is when I truly started exploring my kinks.

  2. Thads says:

    I was unaware of my kinky side, and urge to be sexually submissive for thirty seven of my thirty nine years on this planet. I grew up in a classic christian household of ” one dominant man and one submissive wife”. I was brought up to believe that homosexuality is wrong…..and that atheists were all drug dealing biker rapists, that murdered people for fun. That’s the short version of it.
    It took a very long time for me to rid myself of these terrible ideals and stereotypes.
    Now I realize that I am not less of a man for letting my wife control our sex life. I’m a better, stronger man for it. I no longer look at sexuality under the strict guidelines of “straight” and “gay”, as there are many many people that do not fit into those narrow labels.
    Feel free to ask me anything….I’m an open book.

    • Domina Jen says:

      Sorry for the delayed response. I’ve been insanely busy (and the 30 Days posts have been written in advance and scheduled to post). I love your story! I grew up in a religious household as well, and it took awhile for me to see where religion is flawed, and where it’s not. Although I was brought up (and still am) Catholic, and there isn’t the defined roles of “dominant husband, submissive wife” that there seem to be in other Christian religions. But I’m very much interested in your story, and how the process of discovering your submissive side went for you. If you don’t mind (intensely) personal questions, please email me! Dominajen@yahoo.com

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