30 Days of Kink: Day 14

How would you say real life BDSM/kink differs from fantasy BDSM/kink?


I can’t lie, I seriously laughed when I saw that this question is on the list.

I mean, really?  Really?


Pretty much every way fucking possible.  Fantasies don’t deal with details.  Like realism, or aftercare, or any of those pesky things.  Fantasies don’t deal with the fact that some people need to go slowly, some people don’t know how they’ll react once they’re in the moment.

A perfect example is my weirdest fantasy, with the extreme puppy play.  Realistically, I probably wouldn’t like it.  I wouldn’t be able to converse with the boy, should the mood strike.  I would have to support him financially, I would have to completely take care of him, he would be very, very high maintenance, he wouldn’t be able to contribute at all…. The list goes on and on.  So sure, the fantasy may be somewhat hot, but the reality is a completely different story.

3 thoughts on “30 Days of Kink: Day 14

  1. Mic says:

    Fantasy is like fuel to an BDSM-relationship! But realism is the glue that keeps the whole thing together. One can’t go without the other.

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