This intrigues me, and I’m really enjoying seeing other people’s answers to it. So I figured, what the hell?
Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting, in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically, describe your kinky self to us.
I’m a Dominant, absolutely. Domme, Mistress, Owner, Sadist, Humiliatrix, Predator, all of that (in varying degrees). There can occasionally be little bit of a Mommy in there, as well, depending on the person I’m playing with. Girls, in particular, tend to bring out that part of me, but there’s been the occasional boy that calls to that maternal, firm, loving caregiver.
The type of Domme I am really depends on my mood and who I’m with, and what that person brings out. For example, kazander is your typical Alpha, somewhat-bratty sub, and when he rears his smart-ass head, I immediately become the strict, unyielding, merciless Dominatrix. There’s a light, playful energy in our play, though, even when I put him in his place, and I fucking love making him eat his words. It’s a power struggle with him, and he’s a challenge.
There have been others that I’ve played with that bring out a different part of me. The sweet, slutty, compliant ones bring out my gentle, indulgent (but no less sadistic or twisted) side. The meek, timid, innocent ones bring out my protective, nurturing side. I remember the Nerd, how he inspired that in me.
But kazander doesn’t inspire any particularly protective feelings. Don’t get me wrong, if I ever hear someone insult kazander, or treat him badly, I’m damn sure going to make sure it’s understood that such behavior is not acceptable. I will not allow him to be mistreated (by anyone other than myself, anyway).
But kazander is strong, strong-willed, and assertive. He is more than capable of handling himself. I just don’t feel protective of him because he doesn’t need protecting. Other subs do inspire that protective feeling. But it has to happen organically, with someone who just speaks to that part of me. I can’t force it when I don’t feel it.
Although, again, this is where my mood comes into play. Sometimes, I’m just going to be that strict, severe, unyielding Dominatrix, regardless of who I’m with. Sometimes I’ll be more gentle. Sometimes I’ll be nurturing.
I don’t go out and search for a little boy (or girl), or a pet, or prey, or anything like that, so I guess I wouldn’t be considered a Mommy, Pet Owner, Hunter, or anything else. But there have been times that I’ve taken on those roles, and they’ve been amazing.
I’m a Sadist, as well, but that is again something that depends on my mood and the person I’m with. Of course, there are times when, regardless of who I’m with and what their tolerance to pain is, my inner sadist is going to come out, and the sub unlucky enough to be within reach is just going to have to deal. But for the most part, I learn very quickly where my subs’ tolerance to pain lies, and don’t really push past that. I have yet to play with someone with a masochistic streak to rival my sadistic one, so I actually have no idea how far my sadism goes, and what my own limits are in regards to inflicting pain. It’s definitely on my bucket list to find out, though.