We’ve talked about kazander’s focus being on his dick before, and what sort of consequences that brings about, and how it affects him and his mindset.
And we addressed the fact that the majority of sexual attention I give him revolves around the dick. And Hapa made a good point in saying,
“Repeated sex and penis centric attention fuels the alpha in me whereas chastity and non-penis centric sexual attention fuels my sub side. In sexual terms, relating to a man as though his only sexual organ is his ass instead of a penis knocks him squarely into subspace.”
So it got me curious. What would happen if I completely ignored the dick, and make his ass the only source of sexual pleasure? What kind of effect would that have on him?
For the record, since putting the contract in place, things have improved exponentially, and he’s been obeying the rules I’ve set out for him. And he’s unbelievably eager to suck the strap-on every day. I know the contract says he’s supposed to do it when he gets home from work (which implies weekdays, and not weekends), but I figured why not do it every day? He certainly wasn’t complaining.
Which is awesome. It’s been knocking him right into that slutty space, right where I want him. And I’ve been fucking him and fingering his ass, as well, to really make sure he knows his place. It’s been great.
But I’m a greedy bitch (we all know this). I want more.
So for the next week, I’m not touching the dick at all. 100% of the sexual attention he receives will be focused on his ass (and his mouth, and the rest of his body). I know I mentioned the maintenance edges, but that’s going to be put on hold for now, until the experiment is over.
I’m looking forward to seeing what kind of effect it has on him. I’m already very happy with the improvements so far, and I’m excited to see how it goes, and if it takes him further into that space.