I haven’t been blogging for the past few days, but there’s a good reason for that. Regardless, I’m back, and I thought I’d take the opportunity to answer another question.
Do you ever feel like switching? Like, do you ever get tired of being in charge?
Heh, heh, no.
Not in the slightest.
I’m discovering, the more I’m around other people involved in the D/s lifestyle, that there are varying degrees of Dom/mes and subs. For some (perhaps most, but I’m simply going off my own personal experience, and I’m not trying to make any blanket statements about the community worldwide), it’s like a character that’s been created. People assume this character when they need an outlet for stress, or uncertainty, or insecurity. They put it on like a jacket, and are suddenly someone else. Someone who craves to be beaten. Someone who craves to beat.
But then, once the need has been met, and they’re feeling satisfied and relieved, they take the coat off and return to their normal lives.
And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. When I was a Prodomme, the vast majority of my clients were these people. They aren’t any less passionate during the sessions, and their needs were just as real as anyone else’s.
But it’s not who they are. It’s simply something they do.
Again, nothing wrong with that. Different strokes an’ all.
But there are others that I compare to Superman. And don’t get me wrong. It’s not that I think these people are superior in any way. Let me explain.
Pretty much every superhero is a normal guy in his day-to-day life. Batman isn’t really Batman. He’s Bruce Wayne. Spiderman isn’t Spiderman. He’s Peter Parker. The Superhero costume is a disguise, to protect their true identities. They put the costume on when duty calls, they do what they need to do, and then they go back to their everyday lives and their real identities.
Superman is the opposite. Superman isn’t Clark Kent. He’s Superman. Clark Kent is the disguise. The superhero isn’t his costume. The everyday, normal guy is.
That’s the way I see it with these two different kinds of D/s people. One isn’t necessarily better than the other. Is Superman better than Spiderman? Well, that depends on who you ask, but they’re both superheroes, and they both get the job done.
I relate to the Superman group of people. Domina Jen isn’t a character. She’s not a role I assume when I need to vent. My Dominance is who I am. It’s a part of my personality, and I couldn’t get tired of it, just as I couldn’t get tired of being intelligent, or charming, or witty, or unbelievably irresistible.
So no, I don’t ever get tired of being in charge. That’s where I’ve always excelled. Sometimes I give myself a lot to handle, but the challenge is exhilarating. And yes, I am human. Sometimes I lose my temper, or lose my control, and need to vent. But this blog has become a very efficient method of handling that sort of thing. And even then, it’s a fleeting thing. I vent, I rant, I bitch and complain and whine, and then I feel better and I go back to being me.
And I like me. So that works.