Brace yourself for one hell of an Ask-A-Domina question…
I’ve read your blog and you seem like a very tolerant, open person, especially when it comes to other people’s kinks. But I’m curious how far that tolerance goes. What if someone’s kink is bestiality or public play or much younger people?
Holy fucking hell…
First of all, thank you for the compliment. I rather pride myself on that open-mindedness. And I believe that everyone has their own kinks. But yes, my tolerance and open-mindedness does have limits.
Now let me start with the easiest kink you listed; public play.
There are many different levels of public play. I’ve been known to engage in a couple of those levels myself. Putting a plug in kazander when we go out, keeping him in chastity, stuff like that is actually rather fun. Discreet, though, and I’m getting the impression you’re talking about something much less discreet.
Let’s ignore for a moment the legal ramifications of public play. I’m pretty sure it’s universally against the law to walk a boy (or girl) down the street, naked, led by a leash. I’ve never been arrested (come close once or twice, though) and plan on keeping it that way. We’ll ignore that for the moment, though.
In short, I don’t love public play. Everything has a time and a place, and if I’m out at The Melting Pot (or insert whatever nice restaurant) with the family, I really don’t want the couple at the next table to start having loud sex in the booth.
Now, at the same time, I recognize that this is a free country, and that means that people have the right to do whatever they want. If that sort of thing happened, and the restaurant staff didn’t immediately throw them out (which the restaurant staff certainly has the right to do), I would simply exercise my own freedom by not patronizing that establishment again.
In that scenario, is the couple wrong for doing the dirty? No, but the restaurant isn’t wrong for throwing them out, either. If you’re going to do things like that, you have to be prepared for the consequences.
Bestiality is legal in a few states here, but aside from that, I have a problem with it. Despite what many pet owners seem to think, animals are not people. They are simple creatures, driven by instinct and incapable of the complex thought and decision-making skills we are. Because of that, we have to wonder how capable they are of giving consent. And that’s the part I have a problem with. If you have sex with a creature who is unable to consent to the act, that’s rape, and that’s wrong.
By “much younger people,” I’m going to assume you mean kids. And, apart from being horridly disgusting, that’s wrong, too.
Brace yourself, readers… I’m letting out my inner anthropologist. Things are about to get messy.
Believe it or not, the idea that having sex with kids is wrong is a relatively new concept. Even as recent as 100 years ago, it was normal for young teenagers to get married, often to older spouses. Throughout the history of human civilization, women were married and having children as soon as they hit puberty, and in most civilizations, their husbands were in their twenties or thirties. That was a part of life.
So the people who have those desires may not be as sick and twisted as current society thinks. Perhaps it’s simply the last remnants of an ancient trend.
But another ancient trend was using leeches and “magic” to heal the sick. Just because it was normal practice then doesn’t make it acceptable now. Times have changed, and a 13-year-old girl today is most certainly not the same as a 13-year-old girl 500 years ago. People also didn’t know as much about child development as we do now, so society wasn’t aware of the inner turmoil so many children (male and female) went through because of such practices. Being treated as an adult before your brain is capable of being one does something to people. We recognized this and quickly put an end to that sort of thing.
The main problem, again, is consent. Kids simply don’t have the mental capacity to fully grasp that sort of thing, and the consequences of such an act. Apart from that, most children lack the self-confidence to stand up for themselves and say “no” if they feel uncomfortable. So even if a child were to give consent, it most likely wouldn’t be real. And having sex with someone who cannot give consent is wrong. There is no gray area on that. It’s black-and-white, and it’s wrong.
So in answer to your question, yes, my tolerance certainly has limits. If that sort of thing is your kink, then I genuinely feel sorry for you, and hope that you can find other things to give you that satisfaction. The kink itself doesn’t make someone a bad person. I know from experience that you can’t control what arouses you. Acting on those sorts of kinks, though, is a completely different story. Anyone who acts on an attraction to a “much younger person” is a horrible individual, and will receive no pity from me when they must face the consequences of what they’ve done.