So I got this comment on my “About Me” page today….
“You could also talk about being a worthless reject fuckbag who isn’t fit to sniff a real mans shit.. Can’t be a sub cos it’s crap? Kneel once a year and think you’re not a sexist pig you piece of shit.? Why don’t cunts like you ever get cancer? Too weak to try being a sub? Too afraid that the whole world will see you for what you are, a spineless wind and piss arrogant whore scumbag? Bet it’s better looking at your feet than it is your face. Superiority? When it’s only simpering little limp dick shitsniffing fart ass fairies like that whore(an even bigger one than you) who you can do it too? If it wasn’t for the sexual thrill they get from it,who’d let you do it? LET YOU DO IT. So how can it be superiority, you misogynistic sexless cunt? Never thought about experimenting with Male Dom/Led D/s, or are you one of those pukefaced cocksucking cunts who like to compare it to abuse?”
Now, let’s ignore the very real possibility that this is a troll trying to get attention, and assume that the author is a real person who is genuinely offended by something I’ve said. We’ll also ignore the plentiful grammatical errors that make comprehending this comment exceedingly difficult.
I’m more confused than anything else. This comment is so wildly, cartoonishly extreme that I can’t even really be offended by it. But I have no idea where this anger or the accusations are coming from.
First of all, sexist? Huh?
I’ve honestly never been called that before in my life. Arrogant, yes. Conceited and narcissistic, yes. Control-freak, yes. Anti-feminist (due to the fact that I stay home and raise my kid, rather than working), yes.
But eh, there’s a first time for everything, I guess.
Secondly, I’m a little confused about the being-offended-because-I’m-not-a-submissive thing, and the being-a-sub-is-crap thing.
Where in the blue hell did that come from? I have no idea if the author of this post is submissive, or even in the lifestyle for that matter, so I have no way of trying to see things from his point of view. But it’s confusing because he goes from you’re-a-cunt-because-you’re-too-weak-to-submit-and-you-think-submissives-are-worthless, which makes me think that he’s a submissive who is offended by some imagined notion that I don’t respect submissive people, to you’re-a-cunt-because-you-don’t-want-a-Male-Dom-Led-relationship, which makes me think he might be a Dom who is offended by some imagined notion that I don’t take male Doms seriously, or that I think Male-Led relationships are abusive.
Huh? Really? Really?
Let me say, first and foremost, both for him and for anyone else who reads this. Submissive people are just as worthy of respect as those who put Master or Mistress in front of their name. I don’t think there’s a single thing I’ve written that implies that I think otherwise. I’ve always had a healthy respect for the men and women who submit, simply because they can do something I can’t. The idea of giving up all that control…. no. Can’t do it. I’m a control-freak. That’s who I am.
But there’s absolutely nothing wrong with the people who can and do give up that control. I don’t think submitting is “crap.” I think it’s the most beautiful gift one person can give another.
But it’s just not my thing.
I equate it to straight people. Being straight doesn’t mean you don’t respect gay or bi people. Just like being gay doesn’t mean you don’t respect straight or bi people. Just like being Dominant doesn’t mean I don’t respect submissive people. Different, but equal.
And then he says “so how can it be superiority…?”
That word isn’t written anywhere on my blog, either in my pages or in my posts. So where is the basis of this accusation that I claim to be superior to anyone else because I’m a Domme?
And, to be frank, no, I’ve never considered experimenting with submitting to a male Dom or with having a Male-Led relationship. Nope. Never. And why would I? And why would that offend anyone?
Going back to my gay/straight analogy, would it make sense to be offended because a straight man doesn’t want to experiment with other men? Or that a gay man doesn’t want to experiment with women? Should I be offended that a gay friend of mine doesn’t want to sleep with me? In what universe would that make sense?
Now, that doesn’t mean that I think there’s anything wrong with Male-Led relationship, or with Male Doms, or with submissive women. Those relationships are worthy of just as much respect as Female-Led relationships. Nothing wrong with either one, as long as all partners give consent to all activities.
So this notion of being offended because I’m a Dominant woman, rather than a submissive one, is a bit confusing. And the more I think about it, the more I think that’s the basis of his accusations. He seems deeply offended by the fact that I’m a Domme, and not a submissive. He considers me sexist because I’m on the giving end of the whip, rather than the receiving end. It almost seems like he thinks all women should be submissive (where’s the fun in that?)
I may be wrong, but like I said, all I have to go on is this comment. He doesn’t have a blog of his own, so I can’t read more about his perspective (and the fact that he doesn’t have his own blog makes me think that he really is a troll, but oh well).
Eh, oh well. People are silly, sometimes. And sometimes, that means that their way of thinking is silly. I’ve decided to leave the comment up, and you can read it (along with my response) on my “About Me” page, if you are so inclined.